I watched recently the classic movie "Fiddler on the Roof." It is all about Tevye, a poor milkman, with his wife, Golde and his five daughters, together with his community who faced life's challenges with faith in God, hope in times of trials, and love for his family and friends.
There is one part of the movie wherein Tevye was asking Golde if she loves him. You see, their marriage was arranged and they only met on their wedding day. Golde, at first, hesitated to answer the question and tried to avoid Tevye but in the end, she pondered on it: for 25 years, she washed his clothes, cooked their meals, gave him five daughters, cleaned their house, and shared common things with her husband. "I suppose so," was her answer. This puts a question in mind: how do you know that you love someone?
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Tevye, the poor milkman and his wife, Golde in the classic movie
"Fiddler on the Roof." |
Oftentimes, we hear the expression, "walang forever!" However, love cannot be separated from infinity. It is not bound by time. Love surpasses time. That is why in every moment that we love, we have this feeling of unending happiness, the feeling of "eternity" of that moment. When we begin to spend some time with someone and cherish every moment, that is already an act of love. Love also demands giving oneself totally, surrendering everything for the sake of others. Instead of thinking for your own good, you look on the welfare of other people. You want them to be happy. This, I think, is the basis when one wants to know if he is in love.
"Love... involves a real discovery of the other, moving beyond the selfish character... Love now becomes concern and care for the other. No longer is it self-seeking, a sinking in the intoxication of happiness; instead it seeks the good of the beloved: it becomes renunciation and it is ready, and even willing, for sacrifice" (Deus Caritas Est 6).
It also reminds me when our Lord asked Peter, "do you love me?" (Jn. 21:15). Realizing his weaknesses and unworthiness, Peter answered, "Lord, You know all things; You know that I love You" (Jn. 21:17). Peter knew that He loves the Lord but has limitations. Jesus, on the other hand, encouraged Peter to perfect his love and so invited him to imitate His love for humanity. Christ also gives us the same invitation: to love unconditionally. Yes, we are not perfect but through love, we can be for we imitate God Who is Love.
If you were asked by our Lord Himself, "Do you love me?" what would be your answer?